Fornicate so he can remarry??

by juci32 2 Replies latest jw experiences

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  juci32

  Hey guys! I've been here a while, posted a few topics about me and my Witness hubs. Well i finally through in the towel and filed for a divorce. i'm not gonna go into detail but all I can say for anyone dating or considering marrying a Witness, (especially a born in Witness with devout family and friends) DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! A DIVIDED HOUSEHOLD WILL NOT STAND!!!!!!!!!!!

  I posted this because my hubs and his mom is hounding me about me cheating or comminting fornication so he can remarry because they can't accept that I dont wannt be married to a judgemental Witness.

  He tells me to confess or if I do have sex with someone in the future to let him or his mom know because he would be commiting a sin by remarrying without the marraige bond being broken(fornication). So i asked him.."what If I do have sex with someone in the future and never tell you?? Does your happiness lay in the power of my hands? Why do i have to let you know via text or call?? Isnt their a way that God can send you some kind of sign??" He says, "no God doesn't , I have to depend on you to tell me", so I asked, "well what if I decide that I dont want to give you that info and your single for the remaining years of your life?" He said that Jehovah will deal with me. I just want to know, where is there a scripture in the Bible that says that an exwife or exhub has to inform one another if they've had sex with someone new (after the divorce)??
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  NewChapter

  Hi Juc,

  It doesn't say that you have to tell him. It says that he is not free to remarry except on the grounds of fornication. I know. I was single for 6 years while my non-JW ex apparently had not met anyone. Or, he did meet someone, and wanting to still control me, he did not tell me. And how could I ask him? It really was none of my business, and I knew that, but it put me in a spot. And don't think the whole f*king scenario did not conflict me. HERE, I was supposed to love my neighbor, WHICH included my ex, and I was supposed to pray and hope that he came to a true "knowledge of Jehovah" and yet, I WAS ALSO SUPPOSED TO HOPE THAT HE COMMITTED A GROSS SIN! Is that not some shit? I was sitting around HOPING that he offended god so that I could be free.

  It's twisted. But he is stuck. He really is, and I know he is your ex, but know he can't move forward without the info. It's up to you of course. It would be kind to simply inform him if you meet someone. You don't have to give too many details. Just let him know he's free, and the next move is his. As long as you are not JW, the elders won't ask to speak with you.

  It's good to be free of it all. But when I was in, that mandate made me so miserable. I was in my twenties and life was passing me by. Bastards.
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  Lady Lee

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