THINKING is a matter of BALANCING extremes

by Terry 8 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Terry
    Terry

    Our consciousness is like the ECONOMY.

    If a flow and a balance between extremes is maintained we profit emotionally and materially with well-being and satisfaction.

    After all, if you earn more than you spend you have a profit to invest.

    If you spend more than you earn you choke in debt and spiral downward.

    Change is constant. It is the one feature of life you can count on without fail.

    Put all your values into one outcome and any sudden downturn destroys the expected payoff.

    Wise investors are told to spread their investments over many diverse venues.

    But, THINKERS are often less wise!

    Polarization is the common thread: putting all of one's values into one rock-solid belief, prejudice, faith, bias, presupposition or policy.

    And worse still; when disaster strikes the polarized thinker becomes stubbornly convinced to cling tighter to what failed policy brought on the downturn in the first place!

    THINKING is a matter of BALANCE between extremes and not doubling down on one number on the roulette wheel.

    DIVERSITY of opinion is hard to come by because, biologically and evolutionarily, total commitment has huge payoffs for a species.

    It has disastrous outcomes for the individual losers, however!

    Ever sit down to lunch and have a common housefly buzzing around you and lighting on your food no matter how wildly you chase it away with curses and gestures?

    That is total commitment to cause!

    That fly will either be totally rewarded by the food it steals or totally annhilated by the blow from your flyswatter!

    But, can the individual human afford such a total commitment to a belief, an idea, a concept or a cause?

    Does life have to hinge on the extreme of fanatical monomania?

    1. If you believe your emotions are the source of information you should follow ("listen to your heart, follow your gut") you can end up broken and ruined.

    2.If you totally invest your life in one "true faith" ("my country: right or wrong", The bible said it, I beleive it, that settles it") the outcome can be disillusionment, dishonor and reckless abuse.

    Why?

    Emotions are not the source of information about what you should do; emotions are the consequence of values already set in place.

    Your values, as such, were either arrived at by vigilant conscious decisions and choices (about what is good, better, best, bad or worst) or they were passively absorbed through inattention, family prejudice, peer opinion, urban myth.

    The point being this: what you FEEL actually follows what you value and not the other way around.

    THINKING is a matter of BALANCING your values so that they are selected consciously and not passively and destructively!

    Are your beliefs based on passively absorbed bias or rationally determined foundational principles?

    How do you determine if your thinking is BALANCED or not?

    The simplest way is to make a list and ask yourself what you LOVE....LIKE.....DISLIKE...and...HATE

    and then---do the most difficult, fearless and searching inventory of WHY--WHY--WHY?

    If you cannot immediately give a rational, foundational REASON for your emotions---you are in a state of IMBALANCE in your thinking!

    If you don't know HOW YOU FEEL then you don't know how you think either!

    The mind is only controlled by the feelings (emotions) when the mind is not in charge of the VALUES.

    Which means you are inhabiting an EXTREME.

    Think of the battered wife who says (after being beaten up by her husband): "It was my fault. I still love him."

    Think of the Catholic who says (after the child molestation policies of the Church become public) "That is just certain bad priests and not the churchas a whole."

    Think of the Jehovah's Witness who says (after the umpteenth change in doctrine, chronology explanation and flip-flip) "There is only one True religion and I'm just going to trust Jehovah to set things right."

    Think of the debtor who says (after their house is foreclosed and their job is lost) "It was the bank's fault for lending me the money when they knew I couldn't affor it" and "Shipping American jobs oversees is what greedy corporations should not be allowed to do!")

    Think of the guy who says: "Blondes are dumb", "I buy American cars only"

    All are examples of IMBALANCE in thinking and extremist opinion of an emotional spillover from wrongly held values both unexamined and dearly grasped.

    Where is the failure in your life? Where is the sorrow or the depression? Where is the debt? Where is the disillusionment?

    It is in the IMBALANCE between your emotionally motivated actions blindly followed and that disconnect with your core values (hidden and passively acquired.)

  • Markfromcali
    Markfromcali

    Etymology for the word rational show it comes from ratio. Beyond the individual level it becomes more complex, but still it is possible to see how different contexts interact. Of course, if we don't even see the balance of things on a personal level it's unlikely that we'll come to any accurate picture of the larger context.

  • THE GLADIATOR
    THE GLADIATOR

    Terry everyone should carefully read what you have written several times and then again. Your advice is priceless.

    This is a wake up call and right now that's just what I need.

  • cult classic
    cult classic

    I've been thinking a lot lately about how I think so I really really really enjoyed reading this.

    Thanks Terry

  • Terry
    Terry

    I catch myself so often "on a circuit" rather than "in the moment" in thought and deed and have to pull myself out of it.

    I'm sure a lot of my patterns have been with me since I was a kid or...shudder...during my JW years!

    Once we adopt a behavior, a value, an attitude or a policy it is easy to go on auto-pilot.

    Our reactions follow.

    Once we think we KNOW something we no longer really think about it.

    Maybe we should!

    Perhaps we should take our strongest opinions and treat them as employees who come up for review ever so often.

    What have you done for me lately--huh?

    Justify what I'm paying you or leave!

    I notice this tendency in our society has spilled over into our media to such an extent there is hardly a venue available which isn't automatically skewed with bias toward an ideological position!

    Only rare moments of objectivity can be observed. But, it is the exception rather than the rule.

    Each of us is a windup toy with knee-jerk mannerisms and quick-to-jump-to-our-preprogrammed-conclusions.

    Who will stop it IF WE DON'T DO IT?

    When is the last time you were really wrong and could own up to it?

    If I'm not caught out being wrong at least once a day I'm going backwards!!

    That's right---I have to be aware and catch it happening and jump in with my toolkit and shovel the bullshit out of the way.

    I have to wear a rubberband on my wrist and snap it when the behavior occurs and say (SNAP!) "i"M NOT GOING TO DO THAT ANY MORE."

    The way people try to quit smoking is the way we need to stop going into automatic-think.

    Next time you catch yourself REACTING-----stop immediately and ask consciously: "Why did I feel that?"

    Root out the core value and examine it like a bug that just crawled up your leg.

    Do you really want it there?

    Then, REPLACE IT!

  • cult classic
    cult classic

    I have a really tough time with my day to day thinking. I know most of it stems from my upbringing as a JW. I'm constantly reminding myself to breath and notice what is right about my life and surroundings. Tough to do after 3 decades of witness indoctrination.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Good advice, terry. We can equate ourselves w our thoughts and beliefs. Once we realise that we aren't really, or don't need to be our thoughts and beliefs, we can become more free. While i have freed myself form bondage to a belief system, i still work daily to stay out of negative thinking. Also, i can easily fall into thought loops.

    S

  • Markfromcali
    Markfromcali

    This theme also dovetails nicely with the subject of art or creativity. Even if it is not our own thought patterns, for the most part we find ourselves in an environment that stimulates us in a particular way and that inevitably reinforces certain habitual patterns. And if we do find ourselves busy balancing different thoughts on-the-fly rather than referencing a pattern we've identified from the past, it can become a bit tiring.

    So the trick seems to be to not frame things in the way we are used to, and reframe things completely rather than just dealing with individual variables, but perhaps using the same overall structure to make sense of it. Or practice not framing things at all, and just be with things without any kind of perceptual filters. Even when it's there just see it for what it is, rather than immediately reacting to the presence of that structure by altering it.

  • THE GLADIATOR
    THE GLADIATOR

    Markfromcali

    Good comments - right on topic.

    Or practise not framing things at all, and just be with things without any kind of perceptual filters.

    So hard to achieve this state of mind. Making a practice of this can lead to peace of mind and freedom from habitual attitudes and responses.

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