How Were You Affected By The Judgmental Views Imposed By Jehovah's Witnesses?

by minimus 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • minimus

    Were YOU too a very judgmental person?

    Did others judge you harshly?

    I know no longer being a 'believer' means that I do a lot less judging of my brothers and sisters.

  • looloo

    its odd but i found the most judgemental dubs were the ones that had absoulutly no right to judge anyone ! including a child molester who hated homosexuals , tarts , criminals , people with no morals etc !!!!!!!! what a hypocrite ! his wife once said to me" people just dont take marriage seriously anymore" ! ( how ironic that while her husband was married to his first wife and abusing his friends children he was also having an affair for 3 years with his daughters best friend ,who became wife number 2 !) never known so many judgemental looney hypocrites , im glad to be back in the"" know where you stand" world where what you see is usually what you get !!!!

  • minimus

    The worst trait of JWs is their self righteous judgmental views toward everyone. The look down upon "worldly" ones. They look at their own with disdain and even refuse to socialize with certain Witnesses because they're not up to their standards.

  • zoiks

    I didn't think I was judgmental at the time. Looking back, I know that I was.


    "Your not a Jehovah`s Witness!"..

    "Only nice people want to be Jehovah`s Witness`s!!"..

    "Are you some kind of Weirdo?"..

    ........................ ...OUTLAW

  • snowbird

    I was a two-by-twice, condescending, holier-than-thou, judgmental heifer!

    I look back with shame at what I became when I joined up with the JW's.

    Minimus, don't you have a chowder recipe that you wish to share?


  • believingxjw

    I was judged harshly in the JW religion and turned in by a relative. But I've learned since then that individuals from all walks of life can also be very judgmental and harsh just as much as any JW can be. It's truly amazing to see the JW judgmental attitudes after the awakening from the JWs and then again to awaken a second time and see the same judgmental attitudes in many all around us. It's a very human trait and one hard to eradicate it seems.

  • minimus

    The most self righteous JWs are the biggest hypocrites.


    "I`m a Jehovah`s Witness and I`m Fabulous!"..

    "You could be Fabulous too"..

    "If you were a Jehovah`s Witness!"..

    .......................... ...OUTLAW

  • WTWizard

    I was brought in by someone that insisted on the strictest interpretation of the material possible. And he made it sound like I could get disfellowshipped for listening to Journey--and the zero tolerance for even having the holidays around was nothing I want to return to. I can remember, due to this zero tolerance for Christmas, I disabled a set of Christmas lights hanging at work (I did that by bending the lead in one bulb per circuit so it did not make contact, rendering the set useless until fixed). And I got yelled at and ordered to fix the lights.

    As for the strict stand against bad songs and watching Christmas specials on TV, all it did was make a complete dork out of me. Then again, the dingbat that dragged me in wanted that, so he could maximize the possibility of being drawn to his 8 year old nephew--bad to listen to Journey or work where there is one strand of Christmas lights on display, OK to molest 8 year old boys. Good thing I didn't fall for his scam to move into the apartment he had just started managing 7 months into my study, or he would have had more time to develop that.

  • minimus

    Some individuals get more affected by the religion than others.

  • tec

    Were YOU too a very judgmental person?

    I was becoming one, yes.


  • Liberty93

    When I was 11 and my sister was 7, I spent an hour banging on my sister's bedroom door, bible in hand and yelling at her about going to a birthday party that my mother had set up for her. This was right after my parents got divorced and my mother left the loonies because no-one offered to help her with us, except for one "sister" who wanted to be paid to clean her house.

    It wasn't but 3 or so years after that that I looked up at the sky, and said, "You don't exist." Best thing I ever did for my sanity.

  • wiser

    After listening to the many testimonies of ex Jws, faders and some still in the organization but afraid to leave because of shunning ect. I am so glad that I did not become a JW!

  • ziddina

    Ooooo, yeah, I was judgemental too....

    I didn't realize how judgemental I was, either...

    Nowadays, I'm only [HOPEFULLY!!???!!] only judgemental of other peoples' driving....

    Hey, you IDIOT!! Use yer gard-DAMM TURN SIGNALS!!! Whattaya think I am - a MIND READER??? Whoops, my mistake... You don't HAVE a mind...

    They don't call me "Mario Zid" for nuttin'...

    (Damm! Mis-spelled "judgmental" again!!! I ALWAYS do that!! )

  • flipper

    I was not a judgmntal person at all. However I was judged constantly by head bashing elders. How was I affected ? It pissed me off enough to leave the cult ! LOL ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper

  • minimus

    I find many "worldly" people are less judgmental than the average JW. The elder system makes you to want to be negative and always looking for a way to nail someone!

  • watersprout

    I was constantly judged while i was in the dubs. Then i started to become a critical, judgemental cow! I hated the person i was becoming and that helped me to see [along with other things] that this religion destroyed people......

    I hope i'm not a judgemental person now......

    Peace and light

  • jam

    Like many here I did not realize how judgmental I was until I got out. A brother I knew was known for his

    judgmental views. Ten years ago he was caught in A motel by his wife with A woman, they was having

    a affair for the past 20years. He knew the woman before he became A JW, so It came out all those years

    coming up in the ranks to become A elder he had another woman on the side. If you are from the

    Pasadena CA. area then you probably heard the story. I knew the family very well, his son and I was

    were good friends in high school. Now I understand why he never became A JW ( his son my friend).

  • Hiding Questioner
    Hiding Questioner

    20 years of shunning by my ex JW family (along with their friends) who judged me and continue to judge me as either (depending on their mood at any given time) either sexually devient or gay or both. This resulted in years of depression, anger, suicidalness and therapy. No, no damage here!


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