A form of healing?

by New day 9 Replies latest jw experiences

  • New day
    New day

    It has been mentioned on here by quite a few posters that when they let go of the pressure of living up to the standards set out in the Wt publications, they felt relief from a strangulating set of rules and regulations which do not truly reflect the kindness and love displayed by Jesus.

    As more than a year has gone by since I first read the Ray Franz books and started reading posts here, I recently stepped back and thought about how I now feel. Having always been a boy who can't say no (theocratically speaking) I have just now realized that, yes, I can refuse talks in the TMS if I either can't do them or (gasp) don't want to do them. Just last week a well-meaning but misguided elder put me down to take a fs arrangement without asking me, despite the fact that I resigned as an elder last year and had asked for the pressure to be taken off. When the elder asked if putting me on the fs taking list had been a good idea, I told him it wasn't and that I couldn't commit to anything like that for the moment. He is trying to co-opt me back into the arrangements so that I will go back as an elder, but I am resisting! "The truth will set you free."

  • ToesUp
    ToesUp

    Good for you New Day! Just say NO!

    These guys just want to "use" you. When they Brothers told me they wanted to "use" me and I needed to this or that, so they could "use me". When I thought about it, they had a whole other meaning for the word use. In reality they want to use me so they don't have to do it. I think most of the Elders hate the responsibilities and would love some down time. Except for the power hungry brown nosers who have too much time on their hands.

  • The Searcher
    The Searcher
    "Thanks for asking, but I am definitely not ready yet. If things change, I'll come to you right away."
  • New day
    New day
    Nice line, "The Searcher."
  • hoser
    hoser
    I quit the tms over a year ago. Told the overseer A bullshit story I have panic attacks on stage.
  • New day
    New day
    I used to feel I would let others down if I didn't rise to the challenge of doing all assignments. Reminds me of the saying "the graveyards are full of indispensable people."
  • Sofia Lose
    Sofia Lose

    I told the school elder that 2 parts per year is all I can handle for now and that I would let him know when I have more time in the future. Have not given a part in a very long time. Sometimes all it takes is clear communication.

    SL

  • New day
    New day
    Nice idea. My wife is also going through huge trauma from relentless pressure of being a Witness for the last forty years. She has almost opted out due to psychological trauma even though she is a true believer. She almost blew her top when the TMS overseer suggested she be a householder on the school, even though I had point blank told him she could not take the pressure. He does not get it at all.
  • GrreatTeacher
    GrreatTeacher
    Good for you, Newday, standing up for yourself. And for your wife, too.
  • zeb
    zeb

    dont you people know that the only way to get any relief from this world is by doing MORE fs and MORE talks and attending EVERY meeting.

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