You can go to this thread for context: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=19598&site=3&page=1 (page 3)
I think that this post by NameWithheld sums up, to my mind at least, the biggest difference between an exJW and a current JW: a flippant attitude about past (and current, for that matter) wrongs.
When you can no longer glibly pass over other peoples pain at the hands of brothers, is when you can no longer be a part of God's one true (not) organization.
For me it was blood, but long before I got the inside scoop on blood, I was begining to strongly resist the temptation to gloss over both my own pain, and others' pain, at the hands of the WT policies.
Sexy, I don't mean to twist your words. When communicating over a texted based system you fail to see emotions, etc that are reflected in a person's words. I was using your post to illustrate a tendancy that JWs (and JW leaders) seem to have - that of minimising people's pain. After all, it doesn't matter how badly you are treated by the brothers, right? Jehovah will make it all better "in his time", right? Don't tell me you've never heard the famous "wait on Jehovah" speech when you have a problem!
Your words just struck me as typical JWism "Oh well, those were different times" In one sentence you dismissed the lifetime of sacrifices that were made in the name of the JW religion - sacrifices that were tossed out the window in a heartbeat as soon as 'doubts' were expressed. It's the same excuse the 'brothers' have made for every failed prophesy - "Sorry, now get back to preaching!"Let's put it this way. Right now, you cannot take a blood trasnfusion, right? Now, let's say your father dies in part due to the fact that he refuses a transfusion. Now, let's say two years down the road, the 'brothers' say "Oh, new light, I guess it's OK to have a transfusion, it's a 'conscience' matter - we won't DF or reprove you anymore". How will you feel? How will your mother feel? How would you feel if your child died?
And don't dismiss the above. It HAS already happened. At one point, vaccines were forbidden. At one point organ transplants were forbidden. People DIED because of this. And then the 'brothers' decided maybe it's not against 'god's will' after all. Oh, sorry about your family that died "But those were different times"