I dated a JW for nearly three years. I had known her through business for a long time, and didn't really know that much about what JWs believed, or anything really about the cult-like characteristics the organization has. We dated before I was divorced, while I was separated heading toward divorce for about a year. She wasn't a regular at meetings, went every now and again. I went to two conventions and a few services with her. I told her that the way they presented things "just didn't seem right" or in keeping with the evangelistic style I had grown up with . I told her it sounded as if they were speaking to five year olds.
She was a beautiful woman physically, and many years my senior. I thought I was living in a dream when she told me how much she loved me. She never had kids, and I always wondered why. She had been married for about 5 years in her thirties, husband walked out on her with some other woman. After a couple years of our relationship, she started exhibiting what I call "split-personality" tendencies. We had talked of getting married, had such love for each other that I couldn't believe I had been so lucky to have found this kind of love. Then, out of the blue, in a serious and monotone voice, she would have serious "worries" about our age difference (which wasn't that great - she couldn't have been my mother) , or the fact that I have kids, and that one day she wouldn't be able to keep up with me or I would tire of her (turned out she got what she originally wanted out of me, then tired of me). She would have fits of outrage and scream that she didn't want to go on with me anymore. A few things had happened that she blamed this (her loss of feeling for me) on, but I believe it was her fanatic JW sister and mother who changed her mind about me. I do not believe that any man will put up with the crap her family has going on within it, or that she will ever know true love for anyone. She was on anti-depressants, and there is no telling how much else I really didn't know about her mental state. What a shame. Anyone here from Birmingham, AL? Did anyone go to the Birmingham convention?