One of my really good JW friends (which now means he can no longer be my friend) came into the shop I work in today with two other JW's to buy some guitar strings and things- I could tell he was uncomfortable walking in the shop (he hesitated at the door) and I was on the phone so I couldn't wait on them personally so all I could think of to do is make a smart ass comment about his hair cut.
They made their purchase & walked out we smiled and waved to each other.
He obviously did not buy anything and they all know where I work, so he just came in to check me out (not in a flirty way).
He has always been a bit on the "edge" when it comes to JW practices (watches R rated movies, listens to "bad" music, drinks, and he does text me occasionally to talk about music and un-JW related subjects).
Should I have tried to reach him with the truth about the truth?
I ponder this question lately with some of my loved ones so I will ask you all.......
If I could be reached by talking rationally with me to look further into the religion I was blindly following- should I try reaching someone I care about?
I read Steve Hassan's book and can study more about how to talk to the real person (not the cult-version)...but ethically, do I have an obligation to help others?
My friend is a bright young kid who could potentially have a career, love, freedom- but at the same price I paid (that is, loss of family and friends, and shock of learning a new hope for his mom who passed away 2 years ago)
What have you all done in my shoes????
Thanks for your insights