"Pagan"??? How archaic... It would be much more accurate to call her a "Neo-PolyTheist"... Or at the very least, a "heathen"...
Besides, she doesn't sound like much of a "heathen", to me... Doesn't even know about smudging, using a circle of salt, a circle of "white light", or mint, or marigolds, or ANYTHING!!!
As for possible custody issues, she's going to have some trouble with the courts if they can show that her so-called "paganism" is causing the child to have nightmares...
O - Kay... As a practicing Neo-PolyTheist, with a limited amount of research at this point in time, here's what I'd do if I were in her shoes...
I'd take the child out into the sunrise - or early in the morning - most mornings, and show her how beautiful our Mother Earth is. I'd tell her how much the Mother Earth loves her, because She gives food for the little girl to eat, fibers for clothes for her to wear, and wood, stone and metals so she can live in a safe, warm home and have a car to drive around in.
I'd emphasize how important it is to take good care of Mother Earth, too. Either before the Sunday custody session, after it, or both, I'd take the little girl out and I would SET A GOOD EXAMPLE for her, by cleaning up an area of earth - the greenbelt in the neighborhood, a park, an area of streamside, a woodlands, and so on... I'd be recycling, using my bicycle, riding the bus, or walking for short, small errands, and so on...
I'd talk to the little girl about the various ways in which Mother Earth's children hide and disguise themselves to protect themselves from predators. [This addresses the issue of lying...] I'd point out that these animals create false appearances ONLY when threatened with DEATH. Otherwise, these animals MUST be honest with their fellow species members. [Let's not get into the vagaries of the mating dances, at this point....] I'd point out to her that, in general, lying is like being false to the Mother Earth, because people who consistently lie, start out by lying to themselves.
Sounds like the mother needs to get her head on straight as to exactly what a so-called "Pagan" consists of...
Zid