TRUTHSEEKERIAM- I am truly sorry your daughter had to experience perverted men in positions of authority overstepping their boundaries in seeking personal information which was none of their business. I hope your daughter is doing better now that she's away from those particular abusive elders.
Since others shared some of their FUBAR decisions - figured I'd share a couple of my own injustices suffered at the hand of elders. Without going into too much detail ( as many have heard these experiences before ) - In late 2003 my non-witness wife left me due to her drug abuse. Methamphetamine addiction. After a couple months she wanted to get back, I said " No " as she was violent and had an extreme temper ( called the cops once on her ) . The brilliant elders told me I should get back together with her if she wanted to - even in spite of putting my then JW teenage daughters in danger . I said I would not endanger my daughters. The P.O. then told me, " Well- if your wife feels uncomfortable having your daughters visit you , then go visit them in a neutral location like a park so as not to make your non-witness wife uncomfortable ! " I looked at this elder and said, " I totally disagree with your counsel. No thanks. I'm going to protect my daughters. "
Then , because the elders saw me having coffee in a public Starbucks with a female ( I was separated from that wife for 3 months ) they invited me to a meeting with them before a Tuesday night meeting. I had no idea WHAT the meeting was - just that they wanted to meet with me. I naively thought, " Oh, how nice ! These kind elders know my wife just left me and they are going to encourage me ! " Not. They had their agenda from the get-go , and it was to prove that I had committed immorality in a Starbucks ! They asked me all kinds of personal questions like if I had touched the lady friends breasts or private parts ! And, had she touched me as well ! I said, " Of course not ! She's just a friend. " For all they know she could have worked for me ! They stated ," You know you are just separated and not scripturally free to date Br. Flipper " ? I said, " I'm not dating. I just had a cup of coffee with a friend. " Then a younger elder really pissed me off . He said, " Br. Flipper you mentioned that you and your non-witness wife went to several marriage counseling sessions. It makes us wonder HOW COMMITTED you were to your marriage if you are dating 3 months after she left you ! " I said, " Look, I take offense to that ! You ask my JW PARENTS, MY CHILDREN, ANYBODY how hard I worked to make the marriage succeed and they will back me up. I disdain you blaming me for a drug addicts conduct. And imputing wrong motives to me ! " With that - I walked out of the kingdom hall taking my books and never went back. That was over 6 years ago. My breaking point.
So any who think these are solitary experiences- think again. This has happened THOUSANDS of times due to cult mind control tactics by the WT society training elders these ways
