I grew up as a witness and only had aquaintance type friendships my whole life ,witness and non-witness included . As an adult when I began my fade I became close friends with two women I work with ,each at a different workplace .Both have known everything about my fade and what it entails .
They have also both taken great delight in showing me the way of the world ! Ha One of the women is the happiest person I have ever met and she is determined to live life to the fullest .She and her husband are very active Christians in their church ,but also live a life of enjoyment . They have introduced me to bars and pub crawls ,festivals ,Christmas parties ect. She prays for me all the time and encourages me to go to church with her ,but when I don't she still is my friend and doesn't blackmail me emotionally like the witnesses did.
My other friend is accepting and one of those people that just gets along with everyone and makes friends with anyone she is around . She has shown me how great it feels to just be accepted for me .
It has built my confidence learning I AM a likeable person and that I don't have to perform a laundry list of feats before I am considered good association for someones friendship/