my story

by rondoggy 4 Replies latest jw experiences

  • rondoggy

    I grew up around truth. I joined the ministry school when I was 8. I was babtised in 1979 and was disfellowshipped in 1990. I was reinstated in 1992. I was not disfellowshipped for being unrepentant, I was disfellowshipped for "a pattern". Ok, whatever. I was reinstated and began to follow the Organizationa and direction of the elders. I pioneered for two years. I moved from Princeton, Wv to Capac Michigan.
    I had been married for 16 years and had 4 children, when after an argument with my wife I left for four days. While I was gone I was informed by my wife that she wanted us to meet with the elders. I agreed, she made a lot of accusations and the elders believed her. They informed me that while they did not promote seperations they had to agree with her and that I should abide by her wishes. So I did, I lived on a campground in a popup camper. During that time, I informed the elders that I had proof she was having an affair with a ministerial servant in the cong. I was told I should not think that of her and I should not accuse a brother. Well a short time later his parents caught them in the act. During my seperation one elder had my wife stay with him and his family, another loaned her his car all in an attempt to keep me from finding her, not that I would hurt her but she had them convinced them that I would. Not only that but they were helping her cover this adulterous affair. another elder paid for her attorney. The two of them were disfellowshipped, yet the cong continued to help her and care for her. While I lived in a popup and no one checked on me for three months. I filed for divorce and began to talk to a sister in WV. The elders told me that I could not date her and I told them I wasn't one elder told me I had to "cease and desist" from any contact with the sister. I did not, instead I moved back to Wv and the elders there told us we could not see one another until my divorce was final. assuming that would take time and not knowing that I had already started the process. Her and i did not see one another until it was final. to their surprise it was only one week later. We showed up at a picnic together and was holding hands, watching the elders point and whisper. An elder called to inquire was my divorce final. I told him to mind his business and check with officials for this is public info. They then requested that I come meet with them. I refused. I was later informed that it was a judicial meeting and I told them do what they had to do. One of the elders on the committee was very supportive of me (and a true friend) he advised me that if I did not show the other two on the comittee had already decided to disfellowship me. So I went pretended to agree and say I was sorry. They put me on public reproof. One of the elders in the cong. the one who called me asking for proof had also lied to me and we got into a heated debate in the back room which has a window where everyone in cong. watched on, I asked the brothers why after all this time was this now an issue with them. The elder stated that, the elders were not aware that we were dating. ( a bold faced lie), we had sat together at meetings attended functions together been to that brothers house together and even requested that his be a chaparone for us when we went on a trip.
    We were both marked before the cong. And to beat it all the elders went around identifying us as the ones marked. They forced the elder (the Friend) to resign because he married us and went against them.
    I found out during my divorce that my ex had sex with many people including coworkers, friends and even my Father and my Brother. Guess what she married the Ministerial Servant and they both were reinstated at the same time. I did not mention that the cong. in Michigan was the cong. they grew up in. and that in the 1980's the society had to come in and remove all of the elders because the corruption was so rampant it was becoming public. I was placed on public reproof for disobeying the elders in Michigan when told to stop contact with the sister in WV , although not one elder provided me with scriptual proof. The elders in michigan gave me a couple of articles about sex in the marriage. I told them my wife and I were seperated and I was not having sex with anyone. What a really screwed up, mind controlling, bunch of purely sadistic assholes.
    Who take the side of whores and why not they are spiritual whore themselves!!!! The harlot on the wild beast is not all other religions but the Watchtower Society. That is my prophecy and I say she will be knocked off some day and destroyed just the way she has destroyed others lives and for the bloodshed she has caused in the "No Blood" policies. Remember God hears those who are sighing and moanining and it is like touching his eyeball. So I continue to study the bible and am making friends via the internet and have made a few " wordly friends and even celebrated the holidays this year. That sister and I are now happily married and have a beautiful daughter. I study the Bible Student literature and a few other helps. I also am helping to encourage others to come out of the cult. And offer help to anyone reading this to contact me via email and I will answer. I also want to thank everyone who has helped me along the way to see JW's for what they really are.
    Ron Owens

  • RR

    welcome to the forum Ron, just a note ... be careful!

    "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."

  • jaysong

    Welcome, Ron. Your story is sad but familiar.

    While I think a lot of JW elders feel the process of disfellowshipping is done for the right reasons, the misuse of power and the horror stories of the abuse of the system just make me cringe.

    In my own case, I actually went to the elders and confessed to Watchtower-defined "inappropriate behavior" with my then-fiancee, because of a guilty conscience and the community responsibility crap.
    It happened more than once, and I was a mess, just riddled with incredible guilt and begging for some kind of help. Instead, the words were "we are going to make an example out of you two." I nearly took my own life during those intervening months after being DF'd...whew, it's hard to even think about it (it was 1986)...

    Your post also made me think of something else. My fiancee at the time told me later about how some elders would just "undress her with their eyes" (she was quite beautiful) at almost every meeting. And the JWs have ther nerve to claim they are different from other religions, above them, better than they are. Some of these "elders" have no business possessing the power the WTS gives them. It's just downright scary.

    Starchambers plus a Pharisee or two equals a lot of injustice and corruption.


  • flower


    Geez, I could have written that! I cant get over how alone I felt thinking I was the only one going through those feelings and experiences and here are other people saying the same exact thing. You are right, its really sick the power the elders have to destroy peoples lives.


    You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.

  • dungbeetle


    Welcome to the board. Hope to see more of your posts.

    In 1975 a crack team of publishers was sentenced to death by a judicial commiteee. They promptly escaped from the cult and now live life on the run. If you have a problem ... and if you can find them ... maybe you can contact the A--postate Team"

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