Highdose, I believe it is very normal to do a lot of nice things for the woman you really love, and it is normal if she expects that. And, you know? it is no problem to do all that if you love the girl. It comes from your heart, and those niceties are done because you want to, not because she demands anything. At least, that is what I feel. And, you can usually feel when the person is sincere and when he (or she) is just deceitful.
If the man loves you, he will not pressure you for sex right away. Especially if you mention that you were a witness and grew up under different rules. If the man loves you, he will respect who you are and will wait.
As Creativhoney said, the sad thing is, if you jump into bed right away, some men won't want you for anything else later.
I assume you want true love. That takes time. Don't accept any pressure for sex.
I honestly wish you all the luck in the world. I don't know how old you are, but I feel you're very young. It feels as if you were my little daughter, going out for the first date... I wish you all the happiness in the world. Take it easy, so you can have it.