Hi, a little background. I've been out for 20 years or so. My partner and I got together about 3 years ago. His sister is a JW. I've never bothered saying anything because we don't have much contact, and I don't want to make it awkward for him. I just faded, so I don't know or care whether I've been df or da'd.
He went to Brisbane, and brought her back for a visit. Apart from the fact that she never shuts up, she talks about herself constantly! I bet they love her at the hall.
She is 52 years old and cuts herself, it's attention seeking, I know, but I don't know how to deal with it. I know what I want to say, but it's not my place.
Here in Australia if you are on unemployment or a pension there's free health care, so she's got psychologist's, case workers, etc, all running after her, and she still wants attention!
She was here for 4 days, and in that time she complained about her wrist (she said it might have nerve damage because she hit it with a hammer), her other wrist (carpal tunnel), her back, her legs, her stomach, her head.
I feel sorry for her, but I don't want to feel sorry for her! Does that make sense? I don't want to give her the negative attention she obviously thrives on. My partner asked me what he should do, and I said I know what I'd do.
Tell her that getting negative attention is short term and ultimately futile. Ask her to list the positive things about her life, then get her to commit to small goals, getting up early, cleaning the floor, and work up to longer goals. I said that I'm sure that they've already tried all these techniques.
I looked online and could only find teenagers that cut themselves, not 50 year old women.
Also not sure if the jw thing is the cause or a symptom!