or do you know of an elder falling for someone you know ? my friends elder dad liked me alittle too much and i didnt have a clue till he told me , i was so embarresed and felt so guilty because i really liked his wife and kids , the ironic thing is he told the man i was in love with (and he had disfellowshipped )not to bother coming back to meetings until he got over me ! i do not dislike this elder at all and actually felt sorry for him as he felt so guilty , but i dont think he should have been telling other dubs what they should or should not be doing when he had feelings for me when married and serving as an elder .