I just got off the phone with my mom and during our conversation (which was good, actually, mostly personal, family stuff), I got a big hint of the cognitive dissonance that Witnesses often operate under. You have to understand, my parents live in an area that is about 75% LDS, or Mormon.
She was mentioning a young lady my aunt is studying with, and she said the following. "She has a boyfriend, and your aunt met him. He's not the usual Mormon guy, very nice and didn't think he OWNS women or that they're not equal to men."
I just about choked on the soda I was drinking. My mother actually believes that JW men are not taught that same thing!!??
She was always big on Women's Rights and Civil Rights before becoming a Witness, was part of all that in the 60s. Can it be that she just ignores the parts that don't work for her and always has?
I started noticing that it's not uncommon among Witnesses, though,when I stepped a bit outside of it. They just ignore the bits of it that aren't personally appealing, but as long as you parrot the words publicly, no one cares that much, except maybe if one of the elders decides to get up in your personal life for some reason, then everything is subject to scrutiny.
Because last year, I remember an elder's wife saying to me (trying to love bomb me back into meeting attendance) that: "Well, our husbands DO own us, according to the Bible, you can't get around headship...but it's a loving arrangement, of course."
This said after I mentioned how repugnant the LDS church viewing men as "owning" women was to me.