Don't feel like going to my MIL house today

hambeak

My partner and I have been together for almost 21 years and for most of those I cook for them every sunday.

I have only 1 day off a week and today I told Jake take the stew I made and I am staying home and just slobbing around the house and watching the tv and looking at jwd and not doing a single thing. He is cool about it and understands completely but his mom just called and tried to lay a guilt trip on me for not coming over I just don't know what to say to her she is ok but kind of nuts 81 yrs old and relys on me more than her family.

I am just tired of all the pressure.

Am I just being selfish? or wrong just wanting some quiet time to myself any suggestions to keep peace?

Bumble Bee

No, you are not being selfish. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.

I love having a day to myself, just lounging around the house doing nothing unless I want to do it, stay in my jammies if I want etc. I try and make sure my hubby has those days when he can too (no honey do lists those days).

I think it's nice that you made the supper for your partner to take, unfortunately for some people they don't see that part, just the part that you're not there. Just tell her that you'll see her soon, enjoy the stew you made for her and leave it at that. I find that the less you say the better, don't make excuses or give reasons why you need a day to yourself.

Take this day for yourself, put your MIL out of your mind and relax.

BB

Double Edge

You can't control other people's thoughts.... so, don't worry about what you don't have control over.... enjoy the day, renew your batteries, tomorrow it will all be in the past anyways, who cares....

cruzanheart

Hambeak, you have the perfect excuse: tonight is the Oscars. Kick back and watch the show! You are most definitely entitled to "me" time.

Nina

Big Tex

Hambeak I've done the 6 day work week before, and you have got to have downtime. You're not wrong at all. Everyone is entitled to have some kickback time. My mother in law used to try the guilt routine on me back but either I was too hard headed or too young and full of it, but it always bounced off.

Pour yourself a nice glass of wine and enjoy the day.