No Natural Affection

by radar 5 Replies latest jw friends

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  radar

  Reliance on the Watchtower for understanding, often lead to uncertainty in the Congregation of JWS, as to what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.
  Example: some years ago I recall one sister who was troubled by the fact, that she, had happened upon her daughter while out visiting with friends one day. It troubled her(conscience) because she wasn’t sure if she should have spoken to her or not. Her daughter was dissfellowshiped. she felt the need, to speak to elders in the congregation, she was directed to appropriate Watchtowers.
  This person was sincere in wanting to do the right thing(in the watchtower's eyes), but natural affection between mother and child, had clearly been clouded over by the Watchtower "control mechanism" which spells out rights and wrongs on matters like these.

  Radar
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  Tammie

  I find it very intresting how the JW's are so quick to say things like lack of natural affection when they hear of stories in the news, such as abortion or such. But they don't apply it to themselves when they shun their family members. I don't see any difference when a mother aborts her baby and when a mother will tell her child, "You are now dead to me." When she or he chooses to leave that orgization. (That happen to me with my own mother.) The last letter I got from my mom, was sighned, "From the woman who gave birth to you." And the last thing she ever said to me was, "I don't need no bible reason for shunning, I would do it any way."
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  Nathan Natas

  Tammy,

  What terrible treatment you received from your mother! I hope you understand that she's the one with the problem, not you.

  I wish you healing and happiness.
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  AMarie

  Radar:

  That scenario sounds all to familiar. This sounds like a repeating situation that I'm dealing with. I'm disfellowshipped and my mother is very very zealous in the Witness faith.

  When there are large family gatherings with extended family members my mother and I are always both invited. Talk about walking on egg shells! Somehow, she manages to stay on the other side of the room for the entire day and saying no more than hello. I know she loves me and wants to talk, but here again, she's so caught up in what the watchtower says is right and wrong, she's forgotten to behave like a real human being. She reminds me of a robot.

  And to think that I used to be that way.
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  radar

  Tammie,
  AMarie...

  .Perhaps you could print this topic out, and send it to your mothers?

  Radar
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  AGuest

  "I don't need no bible reason for shunning, I would do it any way."

  YOW-OUCH!

  Golly, with all THAT 'love' oozin' out, who would ever question whether JWs are Christ's 'disciples'? I mean, 'by this' won't all just 'know' they are?

  Tammie... dear one... may you have peace... and may you, if at all possible, not hold this against your mother. For she has been misled, seriously and severely so, by her devotion to false 'christs'. It most probably was not intentional, but simply a blind desire to serve God which has been exploited by wolves. Forgive her and hold no ire against her for her ignorance, if you can. Blame, instead, the blind guides who are misleading her; they are the perpetrators of this 'anti-christ' behavior and mindset.

  If you can remember, my Lord is recorded to have said, "And the day is coming when all who 'kill' you will think they are rendering an act of sacred service." We, then, can be 'set free' from the burden of judging and condemning such 'killers' by knowing that THEY... 'know not what they do'.

  May my Lord grant you his peace to flourish in your own life, and sustain you.

  Your servant and a slave of Christ,

  SJ