My mom, a jw, tells me of her friend from the KH(who I know pretty well, nice lady) whose daughter has decided to move out with a "worldly" guy. She is only 17 and has some post secondary education ahead of her (her parents are quite supportive of the education just not the "outsider" b/f). I know her somewhat, but not really all that well. More of a "know of her" scenario.
My mom told me that her parents have told her that if she is going to see this guy that they have to set an example for her 4 younger siblings and she would have to decide between the family or the guy...basically if you want to be with him you have to leave. (She's not the oldest,she has one other sibling older, who is a married jw) They had the "shmelders" talk to her and according to my mom they were "so nice about it...you know and not from just a religious viewpoint...the one guy could have been a youth counsellor!" Anyway she has decided to leave home.
My dilemma is that I would like to sit down and talk to her, seeing as I was pretty much in the same shoes at her age. (I was out on my own at her same age living with a guy as well and well lets just say I would have done things alot differently if i could turn back time.) I don't want to tell her to go back home, but I just want to stress some advantages of it regardless of the jw family pressures. I also think part of me wants to see her adjust to the initial taste ex jw life better than myself and some others I have seen. You know that sudden burst of freedom, and you do everything that was once deemed evil all at the same time??? I guess you could say I want to help with her "transition", but I don't want to be the know it all lady. Does that make any sense??
I dunno...what do you think???
Thanks in advance,