I just got back from family court last Wednesday.
My mother aged 81 (an ex JW by the way) has an advanced case of Altzheimers. She still knows us and can converse with you, but is becoming increasingly irrational because of the dementia inherent in this disease. She had been wandering off from her house and getting caught just walking down the street in 5:00 traffic several times in recent months. There was nothing left to do but put her into an assisted living facility.
The horror of the situation was the bizarre relationship going on with my younger sister and my mom. Unknown to me, my sister had used this mental impairment of my mom to take over her life and get complete control of all her assets. She got mother to sign a durable power of attorney to herself and then transferred all of mother's CDs, annuities, etc. into her own name and was preparing to do the same with mother's house. She had also loaned herself large sums of money from mom's assets several times in the past and has a history of bankruptcy, something I had no idea of until we began to do the research for the court case.
Fortunately, the court saw the situation for what it was worth, and honored my petition yesterday. A legal trustee (an independent investment banker) was appointed to manage the financials, and a court-appointed guardian has been granted the authority to make living and medical decisions as needed in the future. I did not ask to do these things myself because I wanted to avoid conflict with the sister as much as possible. As you can imagine, sister already has a lifetime supply of hate for James built up over losing control of the money. So, the action has thus far cost me personally about $10,000 but at least we were able to recover the bulk of the estate with the exception of around $50,000 which appears to have been "loaned" out with no real hope of eventual recovery.
In short, I guess you could say that I won the court case.
I hope you will forgive me, though, for saying that this whole thing sucks the big one.
done bitching now,
PS - I am going to shortly open an automotive subject thread which will shock those of you who know me as a gearhead.