so called friends

buffalosrfree

My wife is starting to really realize that the so called "friends" at the kingdumb hall are not friends at all, we received an invitation to attend a get together for a sister who is leaving the area and moving to the northeastern united states, my wife finally decided not to go as she said to me"they never came to se me when i was leaving the states to move oversears why should i go and see them when they are moving to a different part of the U.S.? then it hit me, she is finally starting to see that there are no true friends in the witnesses. they are only convient friends, and friends if you believe as they do, and only live between their boundaries. We have lived an hour away for over 8 yrs. and they have never once come up to see us. While my wife on a number of occasions has asked me to drive her down there so she could visit the, maybe the light is truly for once getting brighter.

Shel mentioned that they had never went to the trouble (as if there was any) of coming up and visiting with her, and that she wasn't going togo there and visit with them although she would miss them, because she was tired of the dobule standard. I was happy for her and yet sad for her because she truly liked this sister and missed visiting with her. I would have been glad to take her, but respected her decision on this matter.

greendawn

As you stated they are friends if you see things the way the do and even then what they will offer you by way of frienship is very limited. Not worth the cost, and your wife is finally realising that.

Gill

It comes as quite a shock doesn't it, when you finally realise this.

The people I had thought of as friends, disappeared so fast whenever I had problems that it was incredible. But it took many, many years to realise why. It's every man and woman for themselves in JW land, and that's why they're so sad, lonely, judgemental and miserable.

I hope your wife gets to find real friends one day.

Golf

As you age you'll come to realize that you only have and know acquaintances. True friends are your intimate family, (as least my family are.)

Bfree, your wife is correct because I could tell you similiar stories that apply not only to the JW's but people in general. Enjoy reading your post.

Golf

luna2

I found that out too when I moved. I had kind of a two-step move. I sold my house and instead of coming straight out to CT, I ended up moving in with my mother until she sold her place so that we could make the trek northeast together.

Well, the sisters threw me a lovely going away party, which I much appreciated, and then I guess I was supposed to have the good taste to disappear forever. Since I was still in the area (a half hour away at my mother's) at the time of "our" Circuit Assembly, I decided I should go. Biggest mistake I ever made. It was like I was invisible. Only one person (who is a friend to this day) treated me like she was glad to see me. The rest were more like, "Oh, are you still here?" It shocked me because I foolishly thought these people were my brothers and sisters. Hahahaha! What a sap!