I have a question for those who go to the memorial for loved ones. I hear that they know how important it is to a loved one and want to show support, however, at what point would you not support your loved ones choices? This is for non jw's as well. If they joined a true satanic 'church', or the Nazi party, or etc... would you still be 'supportive' of your loved one and go to a special meeting because it meant sooo much to the person? At what point does one say, I know this is important to you but I simply cannot and will not support something that I find morally reprehensible?
A jw would be insulted by the comparisons but I do not think they are that far off. The satanic 'church' would obviously use occultic practices, the early years of the wt are steeped in occultism. The Nazi party killed many people and justified it, the wt kills and maims many of it's members every year due to the medical, no blood practices. The wt 'kills' any member who leaves and often it is as if the person was dead. The wt not only believes that non jw's are worthy of death they actually pray for the destruction of the worldly people. The Nazi party didn't blink when killing a child, the wt not only physically kills its own children but also spiritually and emotionally damages them. And by the amount of suicides we see the damage is beyond repair for some, in their minds anyway.
As a parent I would do just about anything for my kids, however, not long ago one child (adult) asked me to accompany them somewhere that I really didn't agree with what would happen there. I had to decline and say, 'sorry I can't go with you on this one, but lets catch up later and go to lunch.' No problem for the child or me. No lectures, no condemnation, just sorry can't make it.(child ended up not doing certain thing anyway) At some point our loved ones must know we love them but cannot support certain activities. I realize for jw families it would mean the utter loss of family but for those who's families do not adhere so stringently to the shunning rules, is there a point you risk disappointing family for your own values?