My mom is getting older, and we had a real thin ice relationship all of my life. She is older now, and I have been stressing because she needs care, maybe committed. She has nothing. Her JW life left no room for planning for old age. Seh also had such a big heart that she always put herself last, and took as best as she could care for us kids. It was a very poor lifestyle. At any rate, I am alive.
She now is crazy and needs to have more control taken over her finances and health. We, my one brother and I, proposed that we would try to get her to go live with him again. But last time they fought so badly. Well this time he is a bit humbled and we are both scratching trying to come up with money to take care of her while letting her keep her own place. This really..REALLY...has not worked well. So he get devious today and picks her up to go apartment hunting. hehe
He takes her to his home and shows her the back entrance and the living quarters that are like an efficiency apartment. She noses around and says "hey look, they have a bearded dragon just like my son.". This IS her grandsons lizard. ?He tricked her into liking the place before he told her it was his. He offers it to her at 285 a month and she offers 200, then he says 250 and she says 225. Well, whatever. At any rate, she said ok. She also told him that he was a JW not a JEW. (I found that really amusing)
Then she calls me so mad about this highway robbery. So I stood up like a grown up and said somthing like...mom, that is a great deal. You are safe, your health is failing, you will have someone there for you, you can keep your dog, you have all the cable tv, music and movies you could want. A yard, utilities and rent all for 250 a month. This way you still are in charge of your finances. You are in a good neighborhood and close to the Asian market. I think it is a great price, besides, you dont want to live off your son.
She was taken aback and later he called and said how she has a piece of draft paper and is setting up planning of belongings and spacing of the items she has, and planning on how to budget and asked if she could paint, etc. This is a big load off my mind and a small load off the pocketbook. All I have to do is visit a few minutes after I get the kids from school. That is not hard, and it is no big deal to take her shopping a few times a month. Just make sure she stays in budget.
She also was to come stay here to give him space a couple times a month, but she refused. She is feeling too bad, and for once my brother said ok, that he understood. So I don't have to have joint custody of her and her dog twice a month.
Strange how I never spoke up to her and this last year I have grown up and can give her an opinion and actually have her listen once in a while.
ALSO-She also told me she has her own reasons and has not gone to meetings in a year or more. My brother has not either. I am not sure of all the in's and outs as to why, they wont talk to me about it...but I think they are seeing it all a bit more clear. She even called and asked for a plate of that pagan holiday food I cook. LMAO