Does this happen with other folks here?
I'm one of 4 siblings who has Left The Truth™. There are two more who are still in, along with our parents.
I have tried to organize a "family" dinner the last few years, including my exJW (never baptized) siblings and their respective never-JW spouses. It never seems to materialize. I realize that it probably creates less of an "exclusionary" feeling - since the JW relatives would not be part of the festivities, but hey, they wouldn't want to be there in the first place. So they all go to celebrate with their never-JW in-laws. One of them told me that they didn't want to create any drama with the parents, who would have a fit if they found out.
I can't help but wonder why it is so important to "not upset" the parents, when the parents are the ones who don't have a problem with excluding exJW family members from "family" events. Is it a matter of loyalty to parents? Is it self-preservation? or are we just so far gone that they just can't be bothered?