Sigh, that will learn me to not pay attention.. posed the original question in the wrong forum.. then went back to edit it.. and ended up deleting the content... and I didn't have a copy of what I wrote... so trying again here.
Basically the short of it is, how do you tell your family - particularly parents - that you don't want anything to do with JWs without it tearing the family to bits?
I was raised a JW. I knew though from about the age of 7 or 8 that it was an organization that I didn't want anything to do with. Thing is, I was conditioned not to question, not to go against the flow... so I didn't. Even after I moved out on my own as an adult and go on with my life, I was still tainted by my upbringing. As it was though I was able to get on with things and live many thousands of miles away from my family, so I've been able to avoid dealing with this issue. They've been happy to assume that I'm a good little JW, and I've been able to do my own thing.
Lately my parents have started pestering me though... asking how my meetings are, what DC I'm attending... telling me little stories about how they will get to their DC... which one they are going to... emailing me things like the DC program... I'm sure they have figured it out that I'm not interested in JWs, but like an elephant in the room, neither of us wants to point at the elephant and say "Hey... look, an elephant!"
So, is it even possible to tell the family without this becoming a huge thing that will further rip apart an already fragile family?