My grandmother's ring, STOLEN

by Irish Rose 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  Irish Rose

  A little over a year ago my sister and her husband had stayed with my husband and I. I won't go into the details, but while here they had stolen several items from us. Some of the things we discovered, very soon after they had disappeared, and others it has takens us a little longer to discover.

  When I was 17 my grandmother gave me a ring. It was a black Onix with two diamonds, set in a silver band. It was something I was planning on passing down to my own granddaughter, when the time had come (and if I had a granddaughter, I have two sons). Now I have discovered it is something else that she had taken. It's one thing have a stranger come and steal from you, but when it comes to relatives.............

  I'm just so hurt right now, it's the only thing that I was able to keep that grandma had given me. Normally when she gave me anything, mom would just send it back to her. Reasons given were "We don't celebrate Christmas. We don't celebrate birthdays. Or we don't accept crosses". You know the typical JW bull.

  That stupid @$$ witch, knew how special that ring was to me. NO MORE, I no longer have any sisters, and they can all go straight to HELL as far as I'm concerned. Don't even get me started about the other one, she is just as bad.
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  journey-on

  How terrible for you! Small treasures that remind you of someone you loved dearly have so much more than monetary value. Have you confronted her about it? Are you absolutely positive it was her? Could someone else have taken the opportunity to steal from you while knowing there were visitors in your house that could be blamed? Just questions you might consider, dear.
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  Scully

  So sorry this happened to you. I had a couple of pieces of jewellry stolen from me when I was a teen - they were items that were given to me by my great grandmother. I knew who the thief was - a younger girl who came to our home for the weekly Book Study. Eventually the ring was returned, but the other piece, a bracelet studded with semi-precious stones, never surfaced again. When it happened, I got the usual schpiel about "letting yourself be wronged" rather than Bring Reproach on Jehovah™.

  I figure it says way more about them than it does about you.

  If you ever visit your sister's house, maybe some snooping is in order. If you find it, put it on and wear it with pride - after all, it's YOURS. Buy a safe for your home and put your valuables in there - especially heirloom jewellry.
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  Irish Rose

  I know it was her, because we have not had any visitors or guest in our home since them. And our home has never been broke into. As far as talking to her, we have not spoke to each other since she left. I have not even received a single phone call or letter from her. When they left, I never received any address to contact her. She even told me while they were living here, about how they have stolen things. And you know the bad thing, they clame to be Born Again Christians. What a bunch of baloney.

  There were two things that happened that caused me to blame her. She had made a commet, about my boy's bikes being parted out, and I did not even tell her that they were stolen at the point. And second, there was an eye witness that saw her and her husband taking the bikes.
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  ush419

  Irish Rose, I know how you must feel. I had a golden ring I had bought in Thailand many years ago and when some "friends" came over to visit their child was snooping around in our bedroom. Upshot of it was I didn't discover the loss of the ring for almost two years as I don't wear it and when was looking for it saw that it was gone. The spouse doesn't wear it, my kids are gone and the only person who had ever been in our bedroom before being run out was these so called "friends" daughter.

  I haven't confronted them with it, but let it be known that in no uncertain terms that their daughter isn't allowed in our house anymore, so now they don't come over any more either and thats fine with us. In another instance when my children were your 3&4 yrs old., had a frineds daughter who use to baby sit, Well we saved quarters and half dollars in a jar over the manthle and one day I was getting them out, had to use a butter knife rather than break the bottle and my son age 4 and daughter age 3 were watching me and said dad that's how "so and so" gets them out too. When asked what it was they were talking about my son told me that she takes money from the jar and when they had seen her she threatened them said she was going to kill us and them. Well it took about two nano seconds for me to go over to her house and confront her in front of her parents. She vehemently tried to deny it, and of course her mother was taking her side and said my little children didn't know what they were talking about. This was getting rather heated until the sitters brother came in and heard what we were talking about. he must have been mad at his sister at the time (she use to treat him like crap) so he told his mom and dad that she does that in fact she had told him that she had gotten money for a movie they both went to from my money jar. Upshot of all of it was we lost her parents as friends.

  I have a coniving sister in law who steals pictures from us., a while back we were looking through some of her pictures she had and talking about the old days etc., when my wife and I spied a couple of pictures we had been missing and had been heart broken over losing them. Well there they were in my sister in law's photo album, when asken how she got them she said well you guys gave them to me, I promptly told her no we didn't I remember you asking for them and us telling you we didn't have the negatives for them and t hat was the only two in existence and that no we weren't going to give them to you., they come up missing and low and behold you have them. I told her there must have been a misunderstanding on her part (family you know) and took them out of the album and took them home with us. Now it seems she is still up to her old ways. My daughter has been staying with her and her husband for awhile while working out of town and she had some jewelry come up missing and guess who she saw wearing it several months later. Once a thief always a thief i think. This sister n law has so much jewelry that she doesn't have to steal my daughters. Even her own husband remembered that it belonged to my daughter when she wore it and when she had gone to work the next day he took it and returned it to my daughter. Needless to say my daughter doesn't stay with them anymore., she can't trust her aunt.

  Sorry for your loss and it especially sucks when its family that does it.
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  PEC

  There is at least one in every family. Barbie Doll's oldest daughter is one and has taught all four of her kids to be the same. We always had to lock up everything of value, everytime the came over. She disowned us, three years ago, when we wouldn't let her move in with us. She is a drama queen and made every visit a nightmare. She thinks she is punishing us by not being part of our family. She doesn't have a clue how peaceful the last three years have been. Here is the many more peaceful holidays.

  Philip
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  Barbie Doll

  I know how you feel, everytime my Daughter comes over and her kids, they steal from me. I go to her house, I well see my things at her house. I tell her they look like my things, she gives them back and said, I don't know how they got here.