Do we ever get past it?

Sassy

I'll be driving down the street, minding my own business and even in a neighborhood no where near any congregation I ever attended, and my eye will catch the door or sidewalk or yard of a home and I"ll feel like a flashback of being in service.. I see myself walking up that sidwalk, unlatching the gate door.. approaching the people in the yard.. or knocking on that door..

and I never ever liked service..I hated it.. feared it!!

so I hate that I can't even drive down new street and not have those flashbacks..

I think I need drugs to forget sometimes..

Frannie Banannie

Hey, Sass! We could always pull over to the curb, jump out and knock on their door and apologize to 'em, eh?

Actually, I propose putting "blinders" on and making some new and fun memories.

Frannie

Sunnygal41

We could always pull over to the curb, jump out and knock on their door and apologize to 'em, eh?

FRANNIE!!! You are the BOMB!!! I'll go with you and Sassy! I have many amends in that department to make!!! LOL!

I agree with you, we need to put blinders on, and make our lives as happy as we can today. Don't feel alone, Sass, I called my therapist today for an appt. Can't wait to see her and talk.......it's been months since I've been in her office, so I have a few things to discuss.

Mulan

Sassy, that happened to me yesterday. We were going to look at the house our son and his family have just purchased, and as we drove into the street, I had a huge flashback of being there in service.

After 7 years, I was pretty surprised that still happens.

codeblue

Sassy:

No....it is going to take as many years to get past it like a divorce..............7 years is the standard. I am sorry.

I am currently almost 7 years from my divorce....and sometimes I still have flashbacks of the first husband. UGHHHHHHHHHHH

According to another study, it COULD take longer than 7 years to obscure our flashbacks on a cult. A cult seems to have a hold on us much longer than a terrible spouse ever had.;...

Take care, and know there are a lot of of out there that are dealing with the same issues you have just brought up.

hugs,

Codeblue

Badger

I get that whenever I get a knock I don't expect. I think it could be a JW.

I was with my son last summer driving home from the store when we saw some Mormons. He asked what they were doing, and I told him.

Badger Pup: "Oh, that's like what I do! But, you don't go to meetings anymore, so you don't have to do that."

Me: "No, I don't. Did you want to do that while you're here?"

Pup: "No, no. That's OK. I'd rather have fun with you."

I hated going up to doors, and I think it showed. that made pioneering tougher.

teejay

There is a scene in the movie A Beautiful Mind that made this huge lump come to my throat. Still does. It was near the end of the movie, after Nash had finally figured out what was wrong with him.

He was sitting somewhere and saw his old demons. This time, it was different. This time, rather that believe what they said and follow them, he simply acknowledged them and went the other way. He realized that while they no longer influenced him or had any power over him, he would nevertheless carry them with him for the rest of his life.

I was a Dub from the age of 5 until my mid-thirties. That entire time, I was a true believer. I never questioned any of it. There's no way I can say ? may not EVER be able to say ? that I'm now, today, totally free of the Watchtower Society's influence. It's not gonna happen, but I'm cool with that. I am who I am in large part because of the Watchtower Society. I just acknowledge the demons...

... and go on.

garybuss

For many of us it was our own kind of Holocaust. Dead loved ones, lost family, lost years, it all takes a tole. I think we have a duty to ourselves not to forget it and not forget those we lost to it. I think we have a duty to expose and resist the evil that caused it all. I hope I never forget. Those silent reminders are like a war memorial to me. I revere them.

Do we ever get past it?

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