Search and Destroy

by kwintestal 4 Replies latest jw experiences

  • kwintestal
    kwintestal

    This is part 2 of my story. Part one can be found here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/77557/1.ashx

    As I had stopped going to meetings and had previously been cought associating with the forbidden ones, I was being watched. My parents were happy to assist the elders as they were concerned for my well-being. Being only 17 I hadn't yet developed the courage to tell everyone to take off, or to just take off myself. Now there was a certain house in the area that was a JW kid party house. I had never been to the house. One youngster had a nagging concience about all these young dubs doing drugs, drinking having sex and so on at this house and reported it to the elders. Once this came out, the JW grapevine started and heads had to roll! In my hall alone there were 6 kids involved in this, all elders kids. I wasn't an elders kid. The head that rolled was mine, here's how it went. One afternoon I was at home with my roommate watching TV and there was a knock at the door. To our surprise at the door were the 2 elders that had chased us in their car only a few month prior causing us to crash into a pole. They invited themselves in to discuss things with us. They discussed their concerns that we weren't going to meetings and in regards to our association. Then they brought out the physical evidence. An ashtray with cigarette butts in it, lighters, forbidden CD's, concert ticket stubs, empty and full bottles of alcohol and a book of different things I had written down. My loving parents had given them access to my apartment to conduct a search for forbidden items. My friend and I could not believe what they had done! We had a reason for everything, but it didn't make much difference. I was sent infront of a JC and disfellowshipped for "Loose Conduct" which as I understand it, means "We couldn't get you on anything, so we'll say you have an attitude that sucks". I appealed, and the appeal committee met and read the minutes from my JC meeting. They were so far off! I objected to the notes and how they were inaccurate but to no avail, the decision was upheld. After the announcement the grapevine got going again. Everyone was so impressed with the elders for taking swift action against me for using drugs, drinking and having sex at the party house. If only they knew. BAAA, Here's me the sacrificial lamb! Or would that be a sacrificial goat???

  • kls
    kls

    Your parents? This is really sad . How do you are your parent's get along now ?


    Like i say they are judge, jury and executioner.

  • kwintestal
    kwintestal

    8 years later we get along ok. I moved to another province to get some needed space. They moved here 2 years ago and I wasn't sure how it would be at first, but it's fine. I was reinstated a year after I was DF'd because of the guilt trips my parents put on me, but was never into it. I stopped going to meetings altogether a year ago and shortly after my mom approached me about it and asked why. She immediately thought that I had been talking to my uncle and aunt about JW's, like I can't think independantly. Then, she went and talked to my wife (who still is active in the org.), wondering if I'm leaving the org because I'm addicted to porn??? Here's logic for you, "He's thinking for himself, it's gotta be porn!!!" HA. Oh well. Me and my mags get along fine with my parents now!

  • kls
    kls

    At least you are not bitter. It is so unreal how they will hunt down their own young and turn on them for the org. I am glad your parents and you can be friends. You have had it rough.

  • Panda
    Panda

    I have firends who did this to their kids --- 3 of them 2 boys and 1 girl. It made me sick and even when we were still "in" I would talk with those kids. I truly believe that all of their trouble rested in the hands of their parents who strictly followed WTS guidlines for raising kids.

    You are strong and loving to be able to deal w/ these issues so well.

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