After you got baptized

freedom96

When my mom was studying, the sisters went out of their way to love on her, and to help her out. She was a single mom back then. One of the biggest things they did was babysit for her, while she had to go out and work. She was not able to afford day care, so this came as a huge help for her.

Immediately after baptizm, these "loving" sisters were no longer willing to help out. At least, not for free. It was if they were jeckel and hyde. Now, they demanded money payment. Or, if she had none, some were willing to take her food stamps. The way it was handled was cruel, and mean spirited.

Needless to say, they were just showing a "fake love" originally. Their true colors came out.

My question for everyone out there is : Where their sudden changes in the way people treated you once you got baptized?

Funchback

This seems to be more common when someone studies who was not brought up as a JW. The JWs love to brag and boast about how many Bible studies they have or how many people they have aided in the "truth". Then, in many cases (not all, of course), they don't give a rats behind about the person once they get dipped.

JH

After baptism, you are on your own. You better produce for the watchtowa or else. It is as if you become their property. I knew a person studying with the j'hovas, and he was without work, and had no car. So they came and got him every day and shared work with him in the cleaning business. He was not baptized yet. At the same time, I was a brother since 5 years, and I just happened to lose my job in a paper mill and no one shared work with me. That got me extremely mad to see how they showed love for the unbaptized, and didn't care about me.

out4good3

Where their sudden changes in the way people treated you once you got baptized?

About a few months after I was dipped in their little pool of faucet water the elder I was studying with suddenly became very busy with work and started missing studies without even the courtesy of a phone call to say he couldn't make it. Later, I was handed off to a "brother" with whom I later found out had just been reinstated.

It felt to me that I was pawned off only after being used to fulfill the elder baptismal quota.

Until then I was "brother zealous new in the trooth" making all meetings and putting my time in "service" every Saturday.

MsJam

When I was studying the pioneer sisters went out of their way to pick me up for service. Even if they were going shopping all of a sudden I was their girl. When ever I reached the car they would ask me what Gods name was. Being naive I had no idea what they were pulling on me. I happened to mention it to the service overseer(it just so happened that I lived with him and his wife) OMG did he come unglued.He had to counsel them on the way they were keeping track of their time and what time they could count.In the process it came to his attention that they had a schedule on who got me and at what time.They did this to assure him that they weren't counting to same time...it was all individual time that way it was fair. No one got more time than the other.I was even shuffled between them for my study.

Of course all this ended when I was baptized.

TresHappy

The over abundance of attention is common among the cults. I think it's called love bombing. Once they get you where they want, and the honeymoon phase is over, ZAP!, you're just another part of the furniture.

neyank

Seems like everyone has the same story.

The JWs are caring and want to help any way they can while you're studying.
But once you take the plunge, you are now part of the group.
They don't have to play at being nice and loving any longer.

It's all part of the sales pitch.

See what we have to offer?
Don't you think it would be good to be amongst people that really care about others?
The Bible says that a true Christian have love amongst themselves.
Can you see the love that is being shown you?
Don't you agree that we must be Gods chosen people because of the love that abounds here?
No other religion has this kind of love so we must be the true religion.

What a sales pitch.

Many of us bought it hook line and sinker.

And once we're baptised?

We no longer see or feel that kind of love because we come to realize that only new comers should be shown such love.

After all, the meetings are for teaching how to sell the orginization.
Aren't they?

A major part in selling the org. is making it look desirable.
And certainly love bombing plays an important part in this.

neyank

Skeptically Yours

Well, think really, it's not anymore different than many existing patterns in life.

Think of how enticing some of those sales pyramid schemes are, until you become part of the pyramid, then you must pick up and move along and bring your part into the pyramid. Or, think of how enticing any branch of the military is until you sign up and then you better shape up but quick!!

Same in this religion, and many other organizations. The babying period is over, and if you've gone by the rules and you've attained the maturity level to become a baptized member, then it's time to play with the big boys and bring your part in.

I need to say, though, that I've never participated in making new ones feel anymore special than anyone else.

Take care,

archangel01

Your Guys/Gals are sooo right

When U have a part or give a talk in the beginning they all clap when your done BUT after you get dipped then they don't clap after you give your talk or part.I was like What the F**K did I do something wrong,so UNLOVING. Why change your way of being nice that is so wrong and very miss leading.They do forget about you once your in and you just feel like you were a # like "NEXT".The people behind the deli at the food store are nicer.LOL

After you got baptized

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