On my way to work this morning I was pondering the way my mother is treated as a less than second class citizen by my father. She was running late (he wasn't going to be leaving the house) and yet she still had to cook (yes bacon and eggs) his breakfast. He is too lazy and feels that it is her job to do this. I have actually seen my father wait for his breakfast (even until noon or later) if my mother happened to sleep in. He will refuse to make anything for himself because its her "duty" as a wife. It annoys me to no end that he doesn't even feel he should help out. I am sure some of this comes from the generation they grew up in but the dubs only reinforce the "head of the household" idea.
I notice with myself that I tend to be as strong of a woman as I can be. I like to be self-sufficient (although I am learning to depend on others). I think alot of the raeson is because I don't want to turn out like my mother. So in effect I over compensate my strength to break this cycle that she is in.
Some would say it is love that she still does those things and perhaps that is true. But what motivates him NOT to help out...love? I dont think so--I think its the dubism superior gender complex.
Does anyone else over compensate to aviod falling in their parents trap?