I beg to disagree with Qcmbr. Strangers who have no investment in a situation can often see much better than those involved, simply because they have no feelings "invested" in that situation.
Someone said the husband is a lodger. I would say he is a free-loader. Some nerve: He lives a separate life from sadcfan, an evil fader, but has no problem eating the bread she wins. He has the time to continue to climb within the Organization only because the evil fader keeps him. But, hey, it is Jehovah's wish that you be theocratic.
I'm afraid that sacdfan will stay in the relationship for the sake of I don't know what, while Theocratic will act behind her back. Has anyone ever about that kind of behavior inside the Watchtower? Yes?
If there are kids, then sadcfan may have a reason to live. You know, some kids resent the fact that their parents stay together "for the kids". They feel responsible, one would say guilty, of keeping an unbreathable atmosphere at home. Then they move on to complain that their parents stayed together for their own sake but conveniently put the burden on them.