As most of you know, my husband and I DA's ourselves almost 8 months ago. The communication with MY family stayed pretty normal. They would call once in a while and text me. My sister would keep in touch with me and let me talk to my nephews. Not every day but once in a while. Today I called my mother (we used to work together before I got laid off) to ask her to get me some paperwork that I needed from my old job. She was very short on the phone. I told her I had went to see my aunt (her sister) - who is not a witness - and my mother wasnt happy about it. I told her I was keeping in touch with my aunts and uncles (that are not witnesses) and try to reconnect with them. As a born-in witness we were not allowed to associated with our non-witness family. So now I wanted to reconnect with them. My grandfather called me who i havent talked to in at least 5 years. And i told my mother because I was excited. Her response was: "Yea i told him about your tattoo and he was upset and wanted to talk to you". I'm like serious? Does the family have nothing better to do than talk about me.
Then she asks me: "Are you happy?" I said yes why. Her response: Well, your celebrating birthdays, halloween, christmas, you smoke and you got tattoos. Are you happy with your life? Is this what you wanted" My heart shattered at that moment. I thought that my family was somewhat supportive - guess I was wrong. I told her that yes i was happy and i knew that she was disappointed in me but that i was sorry.
Then I ask my sister to let me talk to my nephew and her response was: "My husband and I had a talk with your nephew and explained that until you decide to come back he's not allowed to talk to his aunt". Then she says "the same way you want us to respect your decision of leaving, you should respect the consequences of your decisions."
Consequences of my decisions.....hmmm.....here's my thought. If you truly want me to come back (not that I will) wouldnt you think it would be easier embracing me rather than shunning me out. My "worldy" family who i have not seen or talked to in at least 6 years are all getting together this weekend for New Years and have invited me and I am going. I want to meet cousins I dont know I have and would like to meet my husband which they havent met. This to me is family. They are not judging my decisions. They are including me - even though I've abandoned them. They accept me no matter what.
So how am I supposed to feel when my witness immediate family (parents and siblings) wont talk to me and my non-witness family who hasnt heard from me inyears accepts me with no questions asked.
I am soooo upset, depressed and everything. I usually do things impulsively but i'm thinking about sending them all an email saying how i feel and then just letting them know that i will be disconnecting from them from now on.....any suggestions in this situation?