Well because I knew the questions would be the same on saturday as they were friday I was even more prepared. My mom has this pattern of repeating the same questions over and over again...she will leave it for a few hours & then she will cycle them over again, but then ask more detail.
So saturday she calls me before I leave for home and now she is backpedalling her story. She tells me that the elder's never said that they were going to disfellowship me, they just were counseling her that she should no longer be associating with me because I am bad association and have been seen with "him" (again with the HIM) and that his car has been seen parked there all the time.
I wont bore you with the same questions I went over in my last thread..but I told her that I loved her & I wrote her a letter a year ago expaining why I was leaving, and my lifestyle has not changed since then.
She said ok then "see you in a bit."
When I got there she asked me to sit down so we could talk- I said ok, but that when this talk is over, I don't want to talk about it again today. it started with the same line of questioning but this time with the statement that she may not be able to go out to dinner with me and get groceries on saturdays like we have been doing since I was 5 years old.
I told her that no matter what the elders counsel was...I AM YOUR DAUGHTER, I HAVE A MORAL AND SCRIPTURAL RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF YOU. I love you very much mom, and I am so sorry the elders hurt you like that. I quit going to meetings well over a year ago now, and every saturday we have went shopping and went out to eat...even with my lifestyle. If you decide that you don't want to do that with me now, that is your choice...but I AM YOUR DAUGHTER & I WILL LIVE UP TO MY RESPONSIBILITY.
A bit more questions about "him" which I replied with nugget's line about the fact that it is human nature for me to talk to others and make friends, as you may imagine I have friends that I do meet, I may meet a friend for coffee, for dinner, to go to plays, other social things. But I have done nothing wrong.
Mom wants to talk to the elders- I asked her to please let me handle it, I pleaded with her, told her that she had too much on her plate emotionally with my dad.
I think she will still interfere. She asked me to call the elder, I said ok. I am thinking about leaving a message on his machine during the meeting stating that I heard that he is trying to get a hold of me & I want to say officially that I have done nothing wrong & I do not wish to meet with you at this time. If I need you, I will call you.
aaaah....then mom & I went to a movie, grocery shopping...
Then on the way home the questions started again... this time...she asked if I "liked him" or is he my friend.
I asked sharply "MOM, who are you talking about?
she finally said his name (coffee shop guy). I replied that he is my friend.
She asked if he was divorced, and she knew his daughter was dead, but did he have other kids?
I said I don't know...I guess he is...I think he has sons.
That was the end for now...Ah am I glad to be home drinking a beer and feeding my face.
Thanks for letting me vent. I am afraid it is not over
CHG