jen...
very sorry to hear that you are going through the emotional roller coaster that comes along with being DF. I am not DF but have been inactive for 3 years now. My mom is a JW and she struggles with my decisions, both with leaving the religion she raised me in, and my decisions in life since. As a former elder, I have had my hand in DFing others...and I have struggled with what I did to those people. In reality, I gave them their freedom, but in most cases they were not ready for that freedom.
Since you are DF, and based on your OP, you personally seem ready for the freedom. What you are having a tough time dealing with is some of the fallout from being DF. Give your parents every opportunity to do the right thing, but don't set yourself up for disappointment. More often than not, the "religion" (ok, book publishing cult) will win out most of the time. Don't give up hope. There are many on this board that waited years for their family to come around. I have met some of them personally. It is what the JWs hope for in reverse....instead of waiting for loved ones to come into the Truth Lie, we are waiting for our loved ones to wake up and leave the cult.
Meanwhile...good for you having the strength to leave and show the kids there is freedom in life. You will not regret it.
Snakes (Rich )