I too was thrilled when Mile Lew's book came out. Finally there was something specifically for men. Now there are a few others but still nothing compared to what is out there for the women. Mind you a lot of the information in the books for women do apply to men but it is the added dimension of "boys are tough" and "boys don't cry" that is needed for men.
I have to agree about the issue of same gender abuse - it can be a real issue for men and in an odd way more so than female to female. I suspect homophobia is much greater on the male side and that would raise stronger issues for the males.
I think most people actually decide to do the work because living day by day in pain becomes so hard that they are willing to do the therapy with the hope that one day the pain will stop. - sort of like having a doctor rest your broken arm (which can hurt like h*ll) but the end result is that your arm will heal properly
I think too that many of the disclosures by men who were in the church or in residential scools and orphanages is helping many other men to come forward. It is always hard to do something if you think you are the only one. I know when I started therapy I knew there were others but I had no idea how many. As more women came forward it encourages others to come forward too. And it gains momentum. But that does seem to be going more slowly for the men and I suspect that there is still a stronger sanction for men to come forward and them not knowing where to go. There aren't a lot of services even now. I live in an area with a large population of men that came from the residential schools. And there is still no program here for them.