| Fantastic interview! Wow, there is so much to comment on. LL, I think you and I sought treatment around the same time (mid 80s) and you are absolutely right. There was little information regarding adult survivors and what there was, was all aimed at women. I remember being overjoyed when Mike Lew came out with "Victims No Longer".I agree that many of the issues are the same, sexuality, helplessness, control, etc. but I also think men (making a broad generalization here) do find it harder to talk about. A lot of it may have to do with society's rules for men, i.e. men should not show emotion (cry) or show vulnerability, and then there are a lot of mixed signals sent out if the abuse was male on male. I'm not in any way saying that it is more difficult for men, or that abused males have a harder time (talking about abuse is not easy for anyone!) but I do think fewer men seek treatment than women and these issues might be influenential.I also wonder how much denial plays a role in people, men and women, seeking treatment. It's so much easier to pretend it didn't happen, and medicate the pain by getting drunk every weekend or lighting up a jalapeno-laced doober than to actually go in, sit down and tell another human being the most God-awful stories. And then, even worse, to have all those buried feelings come up. You feel like shit for months on end. It's so much easier to limp along in life than to face up to it. Chris |