Sassy You aren't alone in using methods to unload. A lot of people do that. That is one of the reasons why counseling can be more helpful than talking to a friend. The counselor has a goal to help you gain insight into your experiences.
For some people a listening ear is all they need. I know that sometimes by just talking it through with someone I am able to hear myself and find my own answers. Other times I need more guidance. And a lot of people use journaling (writing out their thoughts) as a tool. it helps them slow down their thinking so they can better analize what is going on.