Thank you Valis and Lady Lee for this. I appreciated this thread. We so appreciate having you on this board Lee and to hear more about you and your insight into your work was excellent.I really appreciated this point for myself
I have only one word of caution about this. Sometimes people are so busy gathering information and telling their stories that they aren?t really processing what happened. There is a very important difference. When a person goes through what happened to process it they begin to make sense of it. How did certain aspects of what happened affect me? What other factors were going on that affected me? What did I think and feel at the time and how did that affect me? How does it all affect me today? What do I need to change? Unless these things are answered the person can be on this endless cycle of disclosure without any real healing.
I think I have done that here regarding my healing and dealing with my exit issues.. I can see how at times I go through the motions of healing when in fact am I really doing that, really comtemplating it all as I deal with things, or just moving from one crisis on to another? This reminded me of a time (one and only time) I stood in line to get autographs after a concert from a band. I was so nervous that by the time I got up to the first band member I was so rambling nonsense and I was shuffled from one band member to the next with the signatures. One stopped me. He literally put his hand out like a top sign and then paused waiting for me to pause and then said HI and smiled. How are you? I realized what I was doing, just racing through the line but not really contemplating or getting even any fun out of it.. it was like robotic moves and he allowed me to see that and then smiled as he smiled I got the point... it was a pretty cool thing. I guess my point is, I wondered after reading your words if I have been doing the same thing here.. running through the exit issues.. talking about them, but really thinking?.. maybe your comment there was like that hand being held out, that "stop sign" to contemplate ... Thank you..