Hi Frisbee
I don't think that are getting easier on the df arrangement. My parents are df'd and my little brother who is still in will not speak to them and hasn't now for almost three years. He won't speak to me, my brother or sister either as we are out but not df'd. He is a Ministerial Servant possilby and elder now. I believe that speaking to df'd family has always been pretty much a matter of conscience.
Good for you on your stand and also you ability to approach a CO.
Sheri