10p - kudos to you and that was a great discussion you had with your wife.
Forgetting all the rest for a moment - how great does it feel:
But I must point out, I was amazed at how relaxed I was, I didn't feel that little thing inside me I normally do which is like an attack mechanism. I felt really "buddist" (not that I know anything about buddism).
Isn't it amazing, once we work/pass through all the emotional turmoil of leaving and questioning everything (mostly ourselves), we move through the bitterness and anger - how you can say the same things you initially thought, but this time from a real place of calmness and then the other person is more receptive?
It is not 'buddhist' it just is being a true human :)
More gets accomplished from this place of openness - which is what the Org just doesn't seem to get.