I hope my bitter tone doesn't make you skip over my posts.
I don't know about being "born gay." It is a huge debate that cannot
be summed up in "born gay."
For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb,
and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are
eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of
heaven's sake.
A eunuch is not gay- he has his testicles crushed or chooses to abstain
from sex with women, but I believe principly, that some are born
homosexual, some are made homosexual by force, some choose to
turn to homosexuality after not being so.
As far as the bookstudy goes, an occasional JW will break out of their
cult personality and be honest, but typically not with the judgmental JW's.
They might be honest when they feel confidentiality will be respected as
the situation is with you and your wife. Surprisingly, my mother admits that
she hates the long conventions and assemblies, is tiring of the same old
stuff at the meetings. Of course, she won't say that to the elders.