Thank you all so much for replying, God how have these people got the right to exert so much influence in our lives even though you don't go and havent been for a long time. I keep what I do away from my family they live away so its quite easy, but why the hell do I feel as if I am still living a "double life" as they call it just like when i was a teenager going drinking in pubs etc (OMG the mortal sin of going into a pub). I used to beat myself up that at the time That I was probably the One responsible for the "withholding of the HOLy spirit" form the cong and it was my fault that there was no increase cos i ws going into pubs!.
All I want is for a day to go by and not think about the damn religion and concentrate on the here and now. I have a good career went on to do a degree and a masters after leaving and consider myself a strong person but it just won't go away. Will it haunt me for the rest of my days?