Hello and welcome to the board. they usually won't come after you if you have not attended for quite awhile, however that is all dependent on what your family members who are still in do with any information they may know about you ,doing something not in line with the organization. I had my youngest daughter and my ex-wife of 9 years try to falsely turn me in for " circumstantial fornication ", and I had been not attending for 4 years. I fought it, and they overturned the DFing decision, so I could still talk with my aged parents , but it sucked 10 months out of my life !
I would make sure that your witness family members are more committed to their relationship with you and hubby than the Jehovah's Witnesses organization before releasing any relevant information to them which would get you DFed . Make sure they won't squeel on you .Good luck, Peace out, Mr. Flipper 