Have they got the power to do this to me after so many years? I know they Know I smoke and do the other things, but have never bothered me about it. I am just terrified of going through all that with my family again have got a good relationship with my bro and sister though they are still strong even though my mum and dad are dead. They dont know we do any of those things cos they live away they dont know and I play the dutiful little sister when I am with them. They think that although we haven't gone for a lot of years that i still live like a JW but just don't go to meetings. If thats what it takes to keep close to them then thats what I do.But I am so terrified that them lot could come and completely mess my relationship with them for a second time.
Your question cannot easily be answered. They CAN DF without your presence, but their
rules tell them they should try to invite you to the procedure.
They often don't go after people that have been gone for years, but they can do it if they
think there's a good reason- one reason might be that you still have contact with JW's
like your brothers and sisters or others.
They could also just say that you disassociated somehow. They can write something
about interfaith and celebrating holidays and never have to invite you to a procedure.
The announcement is the same for DA or DF- "Myababe is no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses."