myababes~Hi, Nice to meet you. I hate to say it, but yet. I can and does happen. I know that the second time I was disfellowshipped, I found out after it was announced. (That sounds pretty funny to me now) I had talked to the elders and they said they were going to call back and talk to me a week from that day. When that day came and they did not call, I called my mom to figure out what to do. She informed me she could not talk to me because it had been announced at the meeting that I was disfellowshipped. I thought to myself that that sure was odd.
I also was such a mouse and did not raise a stink and just accepted it and got angry but instead of changing anything I was doing as I had intended on doing, I threw myself into what trouble I was into more. Years later I did call and question one of the elders about it. Amazingly the story had changed. I was told something to the effect that I showed signs of not changing my course at all and no signs of repentance. The funny thing is I seem to recall being very scared the first time I spoke to them, not saying much (via telephone) and open to speaking to them again. In fact I was open to help and possibly changing my course of action. I found it very tidy how they wrapped it up and DF'ed me via long distance and did not even tell me. They did not even bother trying to help me.
Pretty much the elders can do what they want for who they want.