Wow, what a side-swipe. 
Sixxer, you ask for any strategems, so here's one scenario--
If your primary intent is to delay any official announcement until after the wedding, then use stalling tactics (as others have suggested):
1) Try to beg off for a week on the jc meeting...you do feel a flu coming on, right?
2) If possible, complicate the matter by saying you have witnesses of your own, whose schedules are very difficult to coordinate.
3) You have 1 week to appeal their decision...wait until the 6th day, then hand-deliver a copy of your appeal letter, preferably with someone sitting in the car that can verify that the letter was delivered.
4) It will take them some time to put together an appeal committee, since such an action has to be coordinated by the c.o.
5) If that doesn't buy enough time, then when the appeals committee renders their decision, appeal it to the WTS. (I'm not really sure about this last step; it may be that the appeal decision becomes binding and announceable, pending an overturn by Brooklyn).
At any rate, I think using such a tactic would probably buy you enough time to be able to attend the wedding.
Other than that, my suggestion would be to make them make the decision, and don't you make it for them. Trust me on this (I speak from personal experience), you never know how the conscience of certain elders will haunt them in a way that you would probably never expect (as happened with the chairman of my last jc).
I'm sorry this is happening to you, my friend.
Craig
Sixxer, you ask for any strategems, so here's one scenario--
If your primary intent is to delay any official announcement until after the wedding, then use stalling tactics (as others have suggested):
1) Try to beg off for a week on the jc meeting...you do feel a flu coming on, right?
2) If possible, complicate the matter by saying you have witnesses of your own, whose schedules are very difficult to coordinate.
3) You have 1 week to appeal their decision...wait until the 6th day, then hand-deliver a copy of your appeal letter, preferably with someone sitting in the car that can verify that the letter was delivered.
4) It will take them some time to put together an appeal committee, since such an action has to be coordinated by the c.o.
5) If that doesn't buy enough time, then when the appeals committee renders their decision, appeal it to the WTS. (I'm not really sure about this last step; it may be that the appeal decision becomes binding and announceable, pending an overturn by Brooklyn).
At any rate, I think using such a tactic would probably buy you enough time to be able to attend the wedding.
Other than that, my suggestion would be to make them make the decision, and don't you make it for them. Trust me on this (I speak from personal experience), you never know how the conscience of certain elders will haunt them in a way that you would probably never expect (as happened with the chairman of my last jc).
I'm sorry this is happening to you, my friend.
Craig