Ah yes. How many times Kate and I have grappled with this issue: from whence the self-perception of unworthiness derives, and what constitutes a meaningful basis to achieve a true sense of self-worth.As willing (or, unwilling, as the case might be) participants in a high-control cult, our "worth" was measured by what we did, not by what we are. But as we move away from that constraint, we often carry with us the same parameter: what I'm worth is proved by what I do...or, perhaps, as the pendulum swings: I'm not worth anything anyway, so I'll do whatever I want, and damn the rest of the world.Max Weber has a thing or two to say about the social basis for this behavior, but on the more fundamental psychological level...well, for the most part, I find it best to sit back and listen.
ballistic brings out an interesting point, about evolution. On a primal level, perhaps our sense of 'unworthiness' is a natural and inevitable consequence of survival of the fittest, and the struggle for self-preservation will always imbue us with the gnawing feeling that "enough is never enough."Much to think about re this topic...our patio will yet again be busy with conversation tonight!
Craig
ballistic brings out an interesting point, about evolution. On a primal level, perhaps our sense of 'unworthiness' is a natural and inevitable consequence of survival of the fittest, and the struggle for self-preservation will always imbue us with the gnawing feeling that "enough is never enough."Much to think about re this topic...our patio will yet again be busy with conversation tonight!
Craig