Jang	Re: Am I Codependent ?
	RosYou are correct in your evaluation. There is the Enabler and the Controller being tested there. That was very astute of you to pick that...... Interestingly, I came between the two which means I am neither. Tina, I did the original checklist with a psychologist who was helping me cope with chronic Fatigue syndrome. I was not coping with it at all because I don't like lying around [:)} She went through the co-dependency issues with me in depth at the time because of my abusive background to make sure that this was not contributing to the problem. That is when I received the checklist. Her assessment was that I am not co-dependent, but independent .... a bit too much .... and that I had to learn how to be interdependent. My time in the JW's was fraught with accusations that I was too independent and not organizationally minded .... Teresa, the therapist also assessed me as the Satir Mode of Leveler. Levelers are often seen as attacking or authoritarian, when they are actually only being factual. As an example, the difference between a Blamer attack and a Leveler's statement of fact, is the heavy stresses placed on the words by the Blamer: Leveler - "Why do you always smoke so much when you're driving?" Blamer - "WHY do you ALways SMOKE so much when you're driving?" One of the greatest ironies is that many people mistake the remarks of a Leveler for verbal aggression and never suspect that the nice person down the road is the one who is really giving them a hard time It is because I have this tendency of being authoritarian I can be mis understood as controlling .... When you think about it carefully, they are vastly different. JanG CAIC Website: http://caic.org.au/zjws.htm Personal Webpage: http://uq.net.au/~zzjgroen/
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