Hi Orangefatcat,
Interesting meeting you had with your mom.
It seems so cut and dry with the J.W. ways of treating ones who have left. It's ironic that some parents are not as strict with this no contact rule as others.
I am in a similar position as yourself and was cast off by my mother too. She too was sick in the hospital during this past year. I wasn't as brave as yourself and went to visit her. I did , however, call the hospital and told them that I was her daughter and asked about her present condition. I told them to tell her that I called to inquire how she was doing and that she could feel free to call me at anytime... and I left it at that. She did not call back.. but that is her choice. I do ask other family members how she is doing, from time to time, and I'm sure that might get back to her sometimes.
It is a weird non relationship and I have come to accept that I do not hate my mom,.. I hate the religion that has covered her eyes with such a film of crap.
If she dies and never leaves the J.W.'s at least she will die thinking that she was doing the right thing. She will die with happy thoughts of resurrection and the earthly paradise. I suppose it isn't much different than most people believing they will go to heaven and have everything.
Still hurts, I know,.. but sometimes all we can do is accept what is. I know that my mom hurts too over this disfellowship treatment rules.. It is unnatural for a mother to have to abandon her child at any time. I believe that my mother sincerely loves me but has roped tied around her because of the J.W. teachings. So again I blame the J.W. religion for this .. and not her. I feel sorry for her.. it sort of like she has been captured by them and is in their prison but because of the brain washing she thinks exactly the opposite of this.
sincerely
Special K
P.S. .. It was nice that she told you that she loves you, and in my opinion, I sincerely believe that she does ..
P.S.S. .. Maybe you are alot braver than I.. I have never gone to see my mom in 10-11 years...It might be my fears of rejection and abandonment at work. You are brave...