(((((((((OFC)))))))))) I am so saddened to see the effects of this rejection on you. Somehow we get away and get on with our lives and start to think well maybe it won't be so bad, maybe they won't reject me. My family is much the same as yours. Its almost a split personality in some ways. My youngest brother is the one my parents will talk to, because although he is out too they still feel there is some hope that they can guilt him or twist him back in. So he is the conduit to myself and my oldest brother about family matters. So when Cory talked to mom about 6 months ago she told him not to have anything to do with me because I'm demonized. Then the last time he talked to her she told him to tell me she loved me.
I think that deep down they do love us, but it scares the bejeezus out of them to love someone that they think is an apostate, that they think is of the world so must therefore be demonized. And if they love someone like us, what kind of sin is that?? These people live in such abject fear, they almost can't go to the bathroom without permission. She probably had to pray for a long time to get over saying hello.
If that isn't something to be pitied, I certainly don't know what is. I think the most you can do is what you just did. Tell her you love her. Show her (if you can) that you are happier and more fulfilled outside. That, in my humble opinion, more than anything else, is what can help her to see that perhaps there is another way. And THAT is why the org fills them with such fear about even speaking to us. Because they know if all these people could see how much better their lives could be outside there would be no one left.
So my thoughts are with you and I and most of us here can relate. You are blessed to have your husband to support you through this and this support group to talk to. Take care.
Gretchen