Hi Jst2laws! I agree with what you have posted.For some it will take a longer than others to move on.What is done is done,the emotional scars remain.My boys who are now married men to non-jw's beautiful women are doing fine.Our boys tell us that we did what we thought was best for the family at the time.They say that in a sense it molded them to be able to see God, Jesus, religion,the Bible in a way they feel that they would not of known otherwise.,and remain open-minded on these issues.
They do not hold anything against their parents,rather ,they have told us that thay love us very much and are living their lives as they wish it to be,happily married and unattached to any controlling organization.Both are doing well in the secular field along with their wives.
We are so happy that our guys are well balanced and have not been hurt or harmed emotionally beyond repair.This has made it easier for my wife and I to move on also doing the slow fade, as we still are near Bethel and are considered inactive.The boys have moved away and we will soon.
Thanks for posting this topic,"Playing The Hand You Are Dealt".Some do this and others simply can't.
Blueblades